Cross Dressers Wives August 2012 Newsletter

Topic For The Month:

Data @ Cross Dressers Wives and Their Husbands

Even though we are still gathering vital data about cross dressers wives and their husbands, we would like to share some of the statistics we have deciphered. Some may be surprised by these results; others may expect to have these findings. Nonetheless, what is important to note is that there are only a handful of studies done on cross dressers wives-but our survey reached more different types of cross dressers wives. The previous studies were predominantly on cross dressers wives who attended cross dressing conventions. Can you imagine how many of us would do that-even once?

Please examine our new survey results. If you have not already done so, please take a few minutes to complete this survey. Just click on Questionnaire on the page where you enter the Forum.

The 90 wives who have completed this survey are overwhelmingly not affiliated with any support group, and more than half of them never post on our Cross Dressers Wives Forum. In fact, only about half regularly scan the Forum. The average CDW’s age is 49; the CDH’s average is 51. They have more college credits than women in the general population, and most are doing pretty well financially. About 40% have no religious affiliation. Three-fourths live in the United States, followed by England and Canada. Most remain married to a cross dresser, and about 75% say they will probably stay married.

Most of the husbands never go out in public cross dressed (60%), and another 10% seldom do so. Forty percent “usually” cross dress in a fetishist manner, wearing only a few items of women’s clothing, with 46% “usually” dressing fully as a woman. It is very uncommon for any of these wives to accompany their husband into any sort of public place.

It’s very interesting to find that 62% of this sample of wives rate their partners as “superior” or “excellent” when cross dressing is not taken into account. While divorce is a possibility for 25%, the rest say they will probably remain in the marriage.

A REQUEST:

In addition to doing the survey, will you please take a few minutes to write me and explain what steps you and your husband have taken to help work on the problem of cross dressing within a marriage? 

Just keep it short and simple, but try to explain what you have done that seems to have helped. I’m asking for this because I am starting to plan yet another questionnaire that will deal in more detail with how you are striving to make things work, and what seems to have been most helpful to you.

Of course, all responses will remain entirely anonymous. Please send your information to this email address:.

You are the world’s experts on this sub culture. Our voices have not been heard, yet, because we usually keep quiet. We want to help cross dressers wives all over the world. Please tell us what (if anything) has helped you with your marriage. Of course, we know that some marriages will not survive this-no way. Some will live as friends, and others will stay until their children leave. Every situation is unique and we are here to support your emotions. They are all valid!

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UPDATES

The Founder has been a guest speaker at a few college classes, as well as salons. We are trying each day to get the word out about CDW and the types of challenges they are dealing with-but first we need to educate people about CD-and bust the myths about CD being gay! Then why are CD overwhelmingly married and many have children? Well, we know but the rest of the world is still in the closet, and clearly in the dark. Let us continue to shed some light on this thorny, murky taboo sub culture.

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HOTLINE

 Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife.

 Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 15 minutes are free.

HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 

 "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”

 "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."

 "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."

 "The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."

 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."

 DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER  We are a charitable, non for profit organization. All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support. 

Please visit our links to purchase our book, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.

For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’   

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              INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE:

“My dreams were all my own. I accounted to them to nobody; they were my refuge when annoyed-my dearest pleasure when free.”

Written by Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley, from the book, Follow Your Dreams (1997) by Liesl Vasquez.

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With Blessings and Gratitude,

       Dee A Levy