Dee’s A Levy, MA Corner….
We at Cross Dressers Wives non profit are delighted to announce our new monthly addition to our team and newsletter. May I introduce…Dorothy Hayden, LCSW, sex addiction therapist NYCWith over 40 published articles as well as an e-book ("Total Sex Addiction Recovery -- A Guide to Therapy"), Dorothy Hayden, LCSW is considered to be a "thought leader" in the field of sex addiction. She practices psychotherapy in her Manhattan, NY location but services client world-wide through SKYPE. Her full bio and list of articles can be found at http://www.sextreatment.com.
Currently, Hayden’s work focuses on cross dressers and consequently many of their wives/partners. She has been on 20/20, The Today Show to name a few. We are delighted to welcome Ms. Dorothy Hayden to our Forum as our monthly therapist!
Blessings & Gratitude,
Dee A Levy, MA
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I'm in the process of starting a blog for CDers and their partners. As soon as I have the URL, I'll let you know. I'll be participating in forums and writing for your newsletter. In the meantime, please take the time to read a comprehensive article I wrote about the partners of sex addicts. I suspect it may apply to you as well. http://sextreatment.com/help-for-the-partners-of-sex-addicts.
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Tim’s Corner… He is so busy but wanted me to send his best to all!
Tim, thank you for saving one of our beloved cross dressers wife life! We are so blessed to have you as a CD Family Advisor. You are our hero, always going above and beyond to support us.
You have your particular way that works wonders for so many CDH and CDW and we are so glad to have you with us. We could not do this without you!!!
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Recommended Book of The Month: DIFFERENT BY LESLIE HAMMOND
Please find a snippet from Leslie Hammond’s book…
“I believe is where the main issue and problem area arises in particular for a loved one, wife or partner who struggles to understand this desire of their partner. Even with all of the trust in the world, it brings about the underlying question of ‘why does he want to dress in ladies clothes?’ The fact that the man they married or live with was in every sense of the word ‘their man’, now suddenly has the liking for wearing ladies clothes. It automatically connects with sexual desires and, leads to the thought ‘what is he thinking about and isn’t our sex life good enough?’
Obviously even for the most open and trusting relationship, it would bring about questions that need answers! The whole subject of a successful marriage or partnership is based on love and trust. Both go hand in hand and, one will never work without the other. To bring such a question into this relationship automatically brings about some suspicion, which is something that should never be permitted to happen. Again, it’s a difficult subject to even discuss as it’s somehow tainted with the sexual and weirdo thing [so to speak] and for this the majority of people in this world they have no desire to want to discuss or, understand it. It’s seemed wrong in many people’s minds and in many cases, it is wrong. That being said we are all different.” (Pages 14-15). Different is available on amazon.com, kindle etc. I highly recommend to for those wives that want to understand their husbands cross dressing. It is a great read!
Dee
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Questionnaire II UPDATE Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey data and the results will be made available on this web site.
Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these on-going research projects.
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HOTLINE Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife.
Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives. Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 15 minutes are free.
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HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS “When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ I felt so much better after talking to someone who really understood how much my husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.” “You are the only person I trust” “My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does” "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.” "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience." "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage." "The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy." "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."
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DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.
Please visit our links to purchase our book, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone. There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated. For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.
Inspirational Quote of the Month… “…create a vision board (see it, believe it and achieve it).” (Oprah: A Biography by Kitty Kelley pg. 368)
