Monday, June 1, 2009

Cross Dressers Wives June Newsletter


A common thread throughout the postings on our worldwide forum has been the poignant and often baneful issue of TRUST. The denotation of trust by Webster’s 1997 Dictionary is “…confidence, firm belief,…state of being relied on.” The connotaion of trust by Roger’s International 1997 Thesaurus is “…belief, faith, hope, assuredness, certainty, sureness…”

As cross dressers wives many of us are questioning whether or not to trust our cross dressing husbands/partners-especially those that never disclosed their life long condition or downplayed the significance of this condition before a serious relationship or a marriage developed. Where was the issue of trust then? Yes, many cross dressers state the reason why they did not disclose was fear of losing us, so they choose to hide their secret from their chosen life long partners.

Some cross dressers wives believe they should trust their cross dressing husbands-despite the history of lies and betrayal. They believe or want to believe him when he says, “It’s over, I will no longer cross dress.” Then sadly many wives discover the suitcase, the box, bag, chest full of women’s clothing or discover lingerie charges on their credit card bills.

If we know we have been continually lied to, how could we be certain, assured and believe our cross dressing spouses-without any qualms? Are we being naive to have faith and trust in them? Is it wrong for us to keep a close eye on their behavior, check their computers to see if they are on cross dressers sites? Are we at fault for being alert and seeking out the truth? This is a dilemma for so many of us, especially those who still love their husbands but simply cannot trust them.

There is no right or wrong answer. It boils down to a personal choice. For some that choice is to leave, others just emotionally leave, while some stay in marriages that are not blessed with the foundation of trust. Often our spouses get angry when they discover that we have gone through their belongings after they declared they stopped cross dressing. So, many cross dressers do not trust their wives. It can become a vicious cycle-with no clear-cut end or resolution in site.

How can we come to terms with such a dilemma? Utilize your God given gift: Woman’s intuition. It can guide your heart, soul, mind and body if you listen to it. TRUST YOURSELVES!!!

Women's intuition is often an invaluable, though intangible powerful resource for women to explore and utilize. According to Dr. Judith Orloff www.drjudithorloff.com, trusting one's own intuition often lends people to make better informed decisions. She urges men and women to tap into their own resourceful intuitions.

Woman's intuition, unfortunately is often underestimated yet has the capability of being a useful, powerful resource in our daily lives.

Blessings to each and every one of you!

The Founder
www.crossdresserswives.com



New Board Game Proves Women's Intuition is Far From an Old Wive's Tale

Ron Hutchinson, recently designed the psychological board game "Sixth Sense" www.sixth-sense-game.com that indicates that women's intuition really exists. He spent a year developing the game and studying the results and his findings revealed that women won 74% of the games when they relied on their intuitions rather than over analyzing. Visit http://www.mmdnewswire.com/womans-intuition-is-no-old-wifes-tale-1940.html to read more and follow additional links regarding the story.


Your Stories

One of our goals is to expand our Monthly Newsletter by including your individual experiences and triumphs. This organization is mostly successful because of your contributions onto the forum. It would be highly beneficial to other cross dressers wives that seek support, assistance and guidance to have access to your personal yet anonymous stories. We'd like to add a column to the Newsletter to publish your individual yet private stories. We encourage you to edit your stories to protect your identity (i.e. location, name, etc.) Please submit stories for consideration to cdwives@gmail.com at least two weeks in advance to the publication date of the next newsletter. All stories will be promptly acknowledged and considered. Please limit your story to no more than two pages. We look forward to your submissions.

We thank those who have kindly donated funds to support Cross Dressers Wives. However, we are still in need of any donation. Every dollar counts and is well appreciated. We need your support!!

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