There have been many new posts from cross dressers wives from all over the word. Most just found out and are in need of immediate support, assistance, guidance, education, TLC and compassion.
Many of us have posted onto the forum our initial responses upon discovering our husbands/partners are cross dressers. Some caught them dressed up; others found their stash of women clothes whereas others realized that their husbands have been frequent visitors on cross dressers sites. No matter how we found out, our reactions often have common threads. For those of us who had no clue- we are often in shock to discover this truth and many feel betrayed by the lies.
This is no easy journey for most of us. It is imperative that you do not blame yourselves for his widely known life long condition. It is not your fault. Also, take no responsibility for not knowing-how could you when many of them hide it for so well and often for so long?
Now that you know-it is time to take good care of yourself. Since knowledge is power, please visit our multifaceted links to education, research etc. This will aid you in deciphering what to do and expect. Also read prior posts on the forum as well as newsletters for diverse and crucial information. You can reach out to other cross dresser wives on the active forum and gain insight into how they are dealing with this issue.
It is vital for your well being not to hold his secret as your own. Secrets can hurt you. Please confide in your best friends, close family members, religious or spiritual leader and seek the help of a therapist. Couples therapy is often helpful as well. And building a strong support team is essential!!!
Many cross dressers wives have found much needed support from our forum-which is the engine that drives this non-for profit website. These incredible, brave, bright, intelligent, supportive and open cross dresses wives will assure you-you are not alone. There are millions of us in the US. But now we are not alone anymore! We have each other for support, information, guidance, compassion, understanding and assistance.
In essence there are no right or wrong answers as to what to do now that you know; it all boils down to a personal choice.
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BOOK UPDATE
We have received several stories and contracts. However we are still open to extending our deadline until January 30th 2010. Please contact The Founder at
Positive Quote For The Month and New Year
“I have the right to have limits. I know my limits and allow myself to do what is reasonable for me.”
By Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman’s Book of Courage (pg 191).
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Blessings to all! May the New Year bring joy, happiness, clarity and good health!
The Founder
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