HAPPY NEW YEAR! TOPIC: SELF CARE FIRST
Dee’s Corner….
Happy, Healthy New Year to Everyone! A new year always brings new hope, a fresh start, yet it can also bring new challenges. As a CDW or Ex CD wives – this can cause us to undergo too much stress-, which we now know, can hurt us in a multitude of ways. What is the answer? Self Care.
We all know that you are always instructed to put the oxygen mask on yourself first on a plane- then on your children etc. This is so you will have the ability to take care of them-but not until you take care of yourself first. This is neither selfishness nor narcissism. There is a huge difference. If you cannot take good care of yourself- how can you take care of your family?
One of my favorite books that I often resort to when I am not feeling well is Louise Hay’s, You Can Heal Your Life A-Z. It derives from Eastern thinking and it makes so much sense. For example, if you have a bladder infection- Hay would claim it is due to being pissed off and holding in the anger. How do you resolve this? -With positive affirmations…
How do you take care of yourself? Make a list of all of the ways you take care of YOU. Are you paying enough attention to your body? Are you going to the doctors? Dentist? How are you caring for your body, mind, heart & soul? It could be as simple as, getting your hair done, taking a manicure, a pedicure, taking some special "time off' doing things one enjoys doing or, on a grander scale spending a day or two or more,
for example, at a spa- with your best girl friend.
What do you need to pay more attention too? Listen to your body- it will tell you what you need, if you take the time and be still…the answers are within-if you take the time to listen…and take action.
Warmly Wishing You A GREAT 2014!
Dee
SELF HELP
[The following information and resources contain tools, skills, techniques and constructive, transformative ways for living. Although they are not specifically written to address cross dressing, they can easily be applied to any person under stress and experiencing life-changes.]
AFFIRMATIONS
Positive Affirmations, Co-Dependents Anonymous (1988)
1. Just for today I will respect my own and others' boundaries.
2. Just for today I will be vulnerable with someone I trust.
3. Just for today I will take one compliment and hold it in my heart for more
than just a fleeting moment. I will let it nurture me.
4. Just for today I will act in a way that I would admire in someone else.
5. I am a child of God.
6. I am a precious person.
7. I am a worthwhile person.
8. I am beautiful inside and outside.
9. I love myself unconditionally.
10. I can allow myself ample leisure time without feeling guilty.
11. I deserve to be loved by myself and others.
12. I am loved because I deserve love.
13. I am a child of God and I deserve love, peace, prosperity and serenity.
14. I forgive myself for hurting myself and others.
15. I forgive myself for letting others hurt me.
16. I forgive myself for accepting sex when I wanted love.
17. I am willing to accept love.
18. I am not alone, I am one with God and the universe.
19. I am whole and good.
20. I am capable of changing.
21. The pain that I might feel by remembering can't be any worse than
the pain I feel by knowing and not remembering.
22. I am enough.
Some of you are very familiar with 12 step programs. Please do not misunderstand my intention. Despite the fact- these steps have NOTHING to do with AA-or Alanon- nonetheless-they can provide support when you really need to take things step by step.
Write your own 12-step program…how you are choosing to live in 2014? I am going for the best year ever! Hope you are working towards that dream to become your reality.
Warmly,
Dee
SELF HELP AUDIO BOOKS
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MAY THE ANGELS BE WITH YOU by Gary Quinn, 2003 by Gary Quinn, 2005
LIVING WITHOUT LIMITS (Audio CD) by Gary Quinn, 2008
THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS (Audio CD) by Gary Quinn, 2008
EAT PRAY LOVE by Elizabeth Gilbert, 2006
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SELF HELP BOOKS
ALL THE JOY YOU CAN STAND Debrena Jackson Gandy,
Crown Publishers, 2000.
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS Don Miguel Ruiz,
Amber-Allen Publishing, 1997.
To order visit: www.amberallen.com
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With love & gratitude,
Dee A Levy
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Inspirational Words…
When I asked my dear friend Karen Harris what are her New Years Resolutions? - She replied, “I do not make resolutions- I make decisions!”
Karen Harris
(Three time Emmy Award winning writer & President of the Writers Guild)
