Dear Friends,
I would like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for your much needed participation on our worldwide forum. Your contributions, input, sharing, understanding, insights, strength, openness, and compassion have provided invaluable support for cross dressers wives all over the world, including myself! All of your posts fuel the engine that drive this site.
Almost five years ago, I was in the maddening throes of desperation, confusion, and isolation. There seemed to me no way out. My back was up against the wall and there was no one there with me.
Even though I was in therapy, my therapist was very limited in how she could help me. I searched and searched for answers and could find none. As an academic and a feminist, I realized I had to find my own way, but how could I find other women in my position?
My therapist recommended a healing center in Sedona and there it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was the spiritual healers (who knew absolutely nothing about me) that encouraged me to take action by taking back my life. First, I had to get a website up for cross dressers wives, then write a book, and the idea would propel itself onwards from there. In addition to getting the word out, I was helping myself and helping others.
I was desperate for help. After losing my home, family, and the love of my life, I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A key thing the first healer said was that I had suffered “severe sexual abuse in my marriage.” I had never thought of my husband’s cross dressing in those terms. Then, when I thought about it more carefully, I realized (with her help) that this was definitely a part of the pain and trauma.
Many times, what gets lost in the tsunami of misunderstood emotion is the simple fact that many of us feel our husbands gradually slipping away. Hopefully, we are developing new ways to defeat that sense of powerlessness. Thank you!
With Gratitude and Blessings,
The Founder
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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. lease book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS
"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."
"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."
"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."
"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."
"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."
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DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
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BOOK UPDATE
Dear Authors,
Thank you for sharing the brave stories that will inevitably help cross dressers wives and their families the world over. It is our ultimate goal to help illuminate a path towards better understanding of this often-misunderstood condition that has affected us all. By drawing this topic out of the darkest closets, you are helping to provide an educational resource that will encourage other cross dressers wives to open up and share their emotional stories.
We are thrilled to announce that our deadline for the book, unforeseen circumstances notwithstanding, to our online publisher is October 1, 2010. If we are still awaiting your signed contract or author questions from the editor, please provide this information at your very earliest convenience.
We will keep everyone updated on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our lives as cross dressers wives.
With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder
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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
" I know in each moment I am free to decide." (Your Sacred Self, by Dr. Wayne Dryer, Page 4).
