Topic for the month: Healing Process
There have been many posts inquiring how to begin the healing process. Some techniques work better for some, but it is to our advantage to experiment on a diversity of healing tools and skills to see which ones help each individual.
According to Dr. Susan Forward’s book, When Your Lover Is a Liar, writing a letter of grief from the standpoint of a fighter-not a victim is the key. She upholds it is vital to take a firm stand with your grief and display your determination to get through it. Some would suggest writing the letter and sharing it with your husband/partner, keep it for yourself, burn it or rip it up. The important element is to release your emotions in a healthy way in order to help you get passed your grief. Dr. Forward also states that adding a bit of humor can also be beneficial (page 135).
Additionally, confrontation can be a positive way to find clarity. Learn to ask for what you need, want, desire and set clear boundaries for a happier and healthy lifestyle. What is best for you is always a personal choice. Nonetheless, healing is a way to begin your new life.
To further enhance your new life, Dr. Jane Greer suggests in her book, How Could You Do This To Me?, there are many lessons to live by. She elaborates on the necessity to identify your true feelings and rebuild your self-esteem by trusting your emotions and your own judgment She purports that by utilizing these fundamental tasks, you will be able to trust again, with your heart and eyes wide open (page 180).
Donations and Volunteers
As a non-for-profit (NPO) charitable tax-deductible organization, we rely solely on contributions and grants to support our much-needed organization. Funds are low and grants during these difficult financial times are limiting our abilities to expand, despite the obvious need to do so. Every dollar can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO to develop outreach programs to worldwide cross dressers wives, who are in need of assistance. Please visit our links to make contributions or to volunteer your services to help us assist those women who are in need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence but not without enormous struggles, pain, confusion and sometimes-severe consequences. For most of us, it is comforting to know that we are not alone. There are millions of us in the United States alone, whose needs must be met. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor is vital.
New Consultation Link
We are elated to announce this new service and out reach to those wives who are in need of phone support. The Founder is not a therapist, those holds degrees in Women’s Studies and M.A. in Social Sciences. Additionally, she has worked with thousands of cross dressers wives for several years. This service is available now for $50 an hour by appointment only. Please contact the founder at cdwives@gmail.com
Inspirational Quote
“ You were born with the right to be happy. You were born with the right to love, enjoy and to share love. You are alive, so take your life and enjoy it ” by Don Miguel Ruiz from his book, The Four Agreements (page 84).
