Cross Dresser’s Wives January Newsletter 2011

Topic For The Month – Eudaimonia (yu-day-moan-ee-ya)


Strolling through my favorite bookstore, I chanced upon a surprisingly inspirational and thought provoking book by Ethel Diamond:  Aristotle Would Have Liked Oprah - Lessons For The Living And Other Philosophical Musings. I opened up a page from the middle of the book and, as synchronicity would have it, I was on the first page of the chapter specifically about Oprah.


According to Diamond, the Greek philosopher Aristotle (384 BC – 322 BC) held that “...the good life and happiness were inextricably bound together.” Yes, I could easily hear Oprah agreeing with those wise words. Aristotle, like Oprah, shared the ethos that happiness and the good life come from living a successful life. “It is a total experience that involves conducting your activities and your relationships in the best possible ways.” Oprah has done hundreds of shows based on this topic.


Aristotle, a teacher of Alexander the Great and student of Plato, the founder of the first institution of higher learning in the Western world, acknowledges that there are many challenges to obtaining happiness, success, and the good life. He maintains that the most difficult challenges come not from our enemies but “…the hardest victory is the victory over self.” Once this is achieved, a wonderful feeling of bliss will arise. Aristotle had a name for this state of bliss: eudaimonia. Oprah buttresses that belief system and so should we.


The only power we do have is over ourselves. Change is needed in most of our lives. It has to come from us. The victory will be blissful…let us all reach the level of Eudaimonia in 2011!!!

Have a happy, healthy, eudaimonic New Year!!!


With love, respect, gratitude and blessings,

The Founder

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CONSULTATION SERVICE


In April 2010, we began one-on-one Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers’ wives. She is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife.


Currently, we are offering a free 15-minute initial phone consultation. Please book your phone consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour.



CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS


"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."



"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."



"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."



"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."



"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."


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DONATIONS & VOLUNTEERS


We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. Donations may be made out to ‘CDW’ and are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our invaluable services. Currently, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide outreach programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance, guidance, information, and support.


Please visit our link to make a contribution in the name of ‘CDW’ or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of understanding, guidance, education, and compassion. Many of us have lived too long in silence, denial and guilt, with enormous consequences. It is comforting to simply know that you are not alone! There are millions of us throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.


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BOOK UPDATE


Dear Authors,


The book has a new title. We are meeting with powerful publicists. The stars are aligning. Spring 2011 is the date. Get ready.



With blessings and gratitude,

The Founder


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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE


“Let the will to believe empower you.”

(Aristotle Would Have Liked Oprah - Lessons For Living And Other Philosophic Musings by Ethel Diamond, pg. 102.)

Cross Dresser’s Wives December’s Newsletter 2010 Topic For The Month - Dressing While Stressing

During the flurry of the holiday season, everything escalates. While dealing with company, travel, religious activities, shopping, cooking, wrapping gifts, and keeping the kids busy while out of school, the cross dresser's wife will most likely carry even more stress than the average wife and mother. She might be forced to ask herself...

How will my cross dressing husband handle his additional holiday stress? According to statistics, studies, questionnaires and posts from our worldwide forum, a cross dresser is much more likely to find relief through cross dressing when he is stressed.

Hustle and bustle can mean more stress with less opportunity to relieve it.

Be prepared, have your eyes wide open, and recognize where your husband's additional holiday stress may truly be stemming from. Also, if your husband is walking around relieved today after being stressed out yesterday, he may have found time to do more than simply hang out beneath the mistletoe.

Knowledge will empower your actions which can change your life for the better. 2011 and beyond!

Happiest of Holidays & Best Wishes To All,

The Founder

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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION

We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April, we began Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, she is a former cross dresser’s wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.

CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS

"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."

"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."

"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."

"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."

"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."

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DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS

Make a donation in your honor to help forward the work of this very important organization. 2011 will be our biggest year yet!

We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.

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BOOK UPDATE

Our publishing contract has been signed!

After much due diligence and meeting with some extremely creative and exciting experts, our final cover design is being crafted!

We have received an additional story! It is currently being edited and will not push back our publication date!

The book will be out first quarter 2011!

Every thanks in the world to the cross dressers' wives who have bravely contributed their anonymous stories; and to all wives and partners who have contributed to our forum and made it the worldwide power-base for cross dressers' wives struggling with this issue.

With blessings and gratitude,

The Founder

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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE

"All the answers to all the questions you are ever going to ask are right here within you. Every time you say, I don't know, you shut the door to your own wisdom." (Heart Thoughts by Louise Hay, p. 78.)

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Cross Dresser’s Wives November’s Newsletter 2010 Topic For The Month – Revenge? Think twice…

Over the years, there have been forum posts about getting revenge on someone’s cross dressing husband or ex-husband. “Sweet is revenge,” said the infamous Lord Byron, author of Don Juan.

According to many social researchers, most people’s fantasies involving revenge towards someone who has betrayed them results in a satisfied emotional state. However, the results of many tests indicate that if one chooses to act on vengeful thoughts, it is not gratifying. Instead, revenge can and often does make people feel worse. Many believe forgiveness is divine…

If a cross dresser’s wife is seeking revenge, living well is the best form! So, live well ladies!

Blessings,
The Founder

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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION

We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April, we began Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, she is a former cross dresser’s wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour.

CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS

"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."

"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."

"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."

"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."

"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."

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DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS

We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.

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BOOK UPDATE

Dear Authors,

Again, many thanks to you, our contributing authors, for sharing your brave stories. Guess what? We just received a commitment for an additional story! In addition, queries have been sent regarding someone inspirational to write our Forward. We are still open to suggestions. All in all, we are more convinced than ever that our end result will be a powerful and enlightening tome. We are steadily getting closer to publication!

In addition, we would like to reiterate that every means possible is being taken to ensure anonymity; all identities of those involved are indeed well camouflaged. To repeat, it is not the intention of the upcoming book(s) to disparage, reveal, or “out” anyone, only to share the emotional tunnels dug in order for these wives to survive. By sharing with others like us and not like us, it is our hope to cast more understanding on this issue. Truly horrifying twists and turns can await the unwitting cross dresser’s wife if the secret is buried too deep. It should not have to be this way.

Stay tuned for updates on our sure to be best-selling book about our secret lives as cross dressers wives!

With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder

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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE

“I have the courage to focus on beauty even in the midst of pain.” (Sue Patton Thoele’s The Woman’s Book Of Courage, p. 231).

Cross Dresser’s Wives October’s Newsletter 2010 Topic For The Month - Halloween

Since our inception, Cross Dresser’s Wives has received over 1000 responses to our Questionnaire. Question #4 asks ‘Looking back, what signs did you miss or ignore prior to discovering your partner was a cross-dresser?’ Overwhelmingly, many cross dresser’s wives responded that their husbands insisted on dressing up as women every year. However, cross dressers are far from a monolithic group; NOT all men who wear female costumes on Halloween are cross dressers. However, it is a significant night for many cross dressers. Halloween provides them with the freedom of dressing up as they wish while still keeping their secret.


Trick or Treat?

The Founder


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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION


We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April, we began Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, she is a former cross dresser’s wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.



CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS


"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."



"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."



"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."



"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."



"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."



_______________________________



DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS



We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.



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BOOK UPDATE



Dear Authors,



Again, many thanks to you, our contributing authors, for sharing your brave stories. We are moving full speed ahead towards publication. Our goal is closer than ever!



After multiple consultations with our online publisher, we have been advised that the book is still a few months away from being published. We have been working diligently on every phase of the book to ensure it achieves its creative zenith.



Additionally, we are delighted to announce that we have received yet another cross dresser’s wife’s story. This additional narrative will surely buttress the book.



Stay tuned for updates on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our secret lives as cross dressers wives.



With blessings and gratitude,

The Founder



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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE



“Women are like tea bags. They don’t know how strong they are until they get into hot water.” Eleanor Roosevelt (1884 – 1962)

Cross Dressers Wives September’s Newsletter 2010 Topic for The Month: My Gratitude

Dear Friends,

I would like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for your much needed participation on our worldwide forum. Your contributions, input, sharing, understanding, insights, strength, openness, and compassion have provided invaluable support for cross dressers wives all over the world, including myself! All of your posts fuel the engine that drive this site.

Almost five years ago, I was in the maddening throes of desperation, confusion, and isolation. There seemed to me no way out. My back was up against the wall and there was no one there with me.

Even though I was in therapy, my therapist was very limited in how she could help me. I searched and searched for answers and could find none. As an academic and a feminist, I realized I had to find my own way, but how could I find other women in my position?

My therapist recommended a healing center in Sedona and there it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was the spiritual healers (who knew absolutely nothing about me) that encouraged me to take action by taking back my life. First, I had to get a website up for cross dressers wives, then write a book, and the idea would propel itself onwards from there. In addition to getting the word out, I was helping myself and helping others.

I was desperate for help. After losing my home, family, and the love of my life, I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A key thing the first healer said was that I had suffered “severe sexual abuse in my marriage.” I had never thought of my husband’s cross dressing in those terms. Then, when I thought about it more carefully, I realized (with her help) that this was definitely a part of the pain and trauma.

Many times, what gets lost in the tsunami of misunderstood emotion is the simple fact that many of us feel our husbands gradually slipping away. Hopefully, we are developing new ways to defeat that sense of powerlessness. Thank you!

With Gratitude and Blessings,
The Founder

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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION

We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. lease book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.

CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS

"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."

"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."

"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."

"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."

"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."

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DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS

We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.

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BOOK UPDATE

Dear Authors,
Thank you for sharing the brave stories that will inevitably help cross dressers wives and their families the world over. It is our ultimate goal to help illuminate a path towards better understanding of this often-misunderstood condition that has affected us all. By drawing this topic out of the darkest closets, you are helping to provide an educational resource that will encourage other cross dressers wives to open up and share their emotional stories.
We are thrilled to announce that our deadline for the book, unforeseen circumstances notwithstanding, to our online publisher is October 1, 2010. If we are still awaiting your signed contract or author questions from the editor, please provide this information at your very earliest convenience.
We will keep everyone updated on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our lives as cross dressers wives.
With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder

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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE

" I know in each moment I am free to decide." (Your Sacred Self, by Dr. Wayne Dryer, Page 4).

Cross Dressers Wives August Newsletter 2010

Topic for the month: Female Cross Dressers

So many people associate cross-dressing solely with men. It is important to acknowledge that many scientists uphold transvestites can be men or women. However, it is much more noticeable to see a man dressed up in woman’s clothing and realize he is either a transvestite, transgender or transsexual, but it is not as noticeable for a woman.

Many women wear lots of men’s clothing styles; such as masculine jeans, bulky sweatshirts, flannel shirts, work boots, and even business suits. The difference is, some societies do not place the same stigma on women for wearing men’s clothes, in or out of the bedroom.

It is interesting to note, The DSM-III-R (the bible for psychologists and psychiatrists) in the past have not included women as transvestites. Some social scientists argue that women who wear men’s clothing cannot be considered transvestites because they do not have sexual or erotic feelings while dressing in men’s clothes. However, other scientists will argue that there are women cross dressers and that some of them do claim to find cross-dressing sexually pleasurable. Some women cross dressers have claimed that simply dressing in a man’s suit results in immediate sexual gratification (Cross Dressings, Sex, And Gender by Vern L. and Bonnie Bullough pgs. 302-303).

This is another demonstrative case in point where social scientists are not all in agreement with the multifaceted issues of cross-dressing. Is it any wonder why so many cross dressers wives are confused!?



Blessings,

The Founder



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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION

We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.

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Donations and Volunteers



We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.

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Book Update

Our book, about our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. We have two new foreign stories. Please know anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.

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Inspirational Quote


“All the answers to all the questions you are ever going to ask are right here within you. Every time you say, ‘I don’t know,’ you shut the door to your own wisdom.”

(Taken from Louise Hay’s, Heart Thoughts: A Treasury of Inner Wisdom, page 78.)

Cross Dressers Wives July Newsletter 2010

Topic of the Month: His Lingerie

As many of you have stated on the forum and in our survey, it is highly common for many cross dressers to wear silky feminine clothes and or lingerie.

In the book, 7 Secrets, by Lacy Leigh, she addresses the issue of the bedroom trap (pg.118). In essence the aforementioned acknowledges that if your encounters with your cross dressing husband is virtually only in the bedroom and he is wearing lingerie, it is very common for the wife/partner to assume cross dressing is all about sex. However, it is much more complicated than that.

According to many hundreds of our forum posts and to our surveys, some cross dressers only ‘dress up’ the bedroom. In fact, our uncontrolled and random sample survey indicates the following:

15% of cross dressing husbands only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom.
10% do not dress in lingerie according to their wives/partners.
25% of cross dressers wives chose not to answer this question.
50% answered that sometimes their husbands dress in lingerie in the bedroom.

Many cross dressers claim they just love the feel of silk on them. However, so many of our stories indicate that even when we purchase silk men’s underwear for them, they choose not to wear it. Logic would dictate that it is not SILK that drives them to wear silky lingerie.

Social scientists are still debating why this occurs. All we know for sure is that some cross dressers only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom. However, that is not to say they are not cross dressing in other pieces of woman’s clothing when we are not present. Perhaps they are wearing lingerie under their everyday clothes.

Lacy Leigh urges cross dressers to disclose this information early on in the relationship. She also suggests to cross dressers not to scare their wives (who do not know yet, or just found out) by cross dressing in front of them. Leigh states, You’ll only reinforce her worst fears if you begin too soon (pg117). For many of us, our worst fears have materialized in the form of silk…


Blessings,
The Founder
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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
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Donations and Volunteers

We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
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Book Update

Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
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Inspiration Quote

It’s a good thing we have the denial system, because it allows us to cover our wounds and still function. But once we no longer have any wounds or any poisons, we don’t need to lie anymore.” (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz).