Since our inception, Cross Dresser’s Wives has received over 1000 responses to our Questionnaire. Question #4 asks ‘Looking back, what signs did you miss or ignore prior to discovering your partner was a cross-dresser?’ Overwhelmingly, many cross dresser’s wives responded that their husbands insisted on dressing up as women every year. However, cross dressers are far from a monolithic group; NOT all men who wear female costumes on Halloween are cross dressers. However, it is a significant night for many cross dressers. Halloween provides them with the freedom of dressing up as they wish while still keeping their secret.
Trick or Treat?
The Founder
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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April, we began Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, she is a former cross dresser’s wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS
"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."
"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."
"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."
"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."
"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."
_______________________________
DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
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BOOK UPDATE
Dear Authors,
Again, many thanks to you, our contributing authors, for sharing your brave stories. We are moving full speed ahead towards publication. Our goal is closer than ever!
After multiple consultations with our online publisher, we have been advised that the book is still a few months away from being published. We have been working diligently on every phase of the book to ensure it achieves its creative zenith.
Additionally, we are delighted to announce that we have received yet another cross dresser’s wife’s story. This additional narrative will surely buttress the book.
Stay tuned for updates on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our secret lives as cross dressers wives.
With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder
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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
“Women are like tea bags. They don’t know how strong they are until they get into hot water.” Eleanor Roosevelt (1884 – 1962)
Friday, October 1, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives September’s Newsletter 2010 Topic for The Month: My Gratitude
Dear Friends,
I would like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for your much needed participation on our worldwide forum. Your contributions, input, sharing, understanding, insights, strength, openness, and compassion have provided invaluable support for cross dressers wives all over the world, including myself! All of your posts fuel the engine that drive this site.
Almost five years ago, I was in the maddening throes of desperation, confusion, and isolation. There seemed to me no way out. My back was up against the wall and there was no one there with me.
Even though I was in therapy, my therapist was very limited in how she could help me. I searched and searched for answers and could find none. As an academic and a feminist, I realized I had to find my own way, but how could I find other women in my position?
My therapist recommended a healing center in Sedona and there it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was the spiritual healers (who knew absolutely nothing about me) that encouraged me to take action by taking back my life. First, I had to get a website up for cross dressers wives, then write a book, and the idea would propel itself onwards from there. In addition to getting the word out, I was helping myself and helping others.
I was desperate for help. After losing my home, family, and the love of my life, I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A key thing the first healer said was that I had suffered “severe sexual abuse in my marriage.” I had never thought of my husband’s cross dressing in those terms. Then, when I thought about it more carefully, I realized (with her help) that this was definitely a part of the pain and trauma.
Many times, what gets lost in the tsunami of misunderstood emotion is the simple fact that many of us feel our husbands gradually slipping away. Hopefully, we are developing new ways to defeat that sense of powerlessness. Thank you!
With Gratitude and Blessings,
The Founder
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. lease book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS
"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."
"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."
"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."
"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."
"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
BOOK UPDATE
Dear Authors,
Thank you for sharing the brave stories that will inevitably help cross dressers wives and their families the world over. It is our ultimate goal to help illuminate a path towards better understanding of this often-misunderstood condition that has affected us all. By drawing this topic out of the darkest closets, you are helping to provide an educational resource that will encourage other cross dressers wives to open up and share their emotional stories.
We are thrilled to announce that our deadline for the book, unforeseen circumstances notwithstanding, to our online publisher is October 1, 2010. If we are still awaiting your signed contract or author questions from the editor, please provide this information at your very earliest convenience.
We will keep everyone updated on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our lives as cross dressers wives.
With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
" I know in each moment I am free to decide." (Your Sacred Self, by Dr. Wayne Dryer, Page 4).
I would like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for your much needed participation on our worldwide forum. Your contributions, input, sharing, understanding, insights, strength, openness, and compassion have provided invaluable support for cross dressers wives all over the world, including myself! All of your posts fuel the engine that drive this site.
Almost five years ago, I was in the maddening throes of desperation, confusion, and isolation. There seemed to me no way out. My back was up against the wall and there was no one there with me.
Even though I was in therapy, my therapist was very limited in how she could help me. I searched and searched for answers and could find none. As an academic and a feminist, I realized I had to find my own way, but how could I find other women in my position?
My therapist recommended a healing center in Sedona and there it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was the spiritual healers (who knew absolutely nothing about me) that encouraged me to take action by taking back my life. First, I had to get a website up for cross dressers wives, then write a book, and the idea would propel itself onwards from there. In addition to getting the word out, I was helping myself and helping others.
I was desperate for help. After losing my home, family, and the love of my life, I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A key thing the first healer said was that I had suffered “severe sexual abuse in my marriage.” I had never thought of my husband’s cross dressing in those terms. Then, when I thought about it more carefully, I realized (with her help) that this was definitely a part of the pain and trauma.
Many times, what gets lost in the tsunami of misunderstood emotion is the simple fact that many of us feel our husbands gradually slipping away. Hopefully, we are developing new ways to defeat that sense of powerlessness. Thank you!
With Gratitude and Blessings,
The Founder
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. lease book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
CONSULTATION TESTIMONIALS
"...the hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."
"...after my consultation with the founder, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers wives - the founder was."
"…the advice I received from the founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."
"Thank you founder for providing much needed resources for me."
"...I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
DONATIONS AND VOLUNTEERS
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands.) A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
BOOK UPDATE
Dear Authors,
Thank you for sharing the brave stories that will inevitably help cross dressers wives and their families the world over. It is our ultimate goal to help illuminate a path towards better understanding of this often-misunderstood condition that has affected us all. By drawing this topic out of the darkest closets, you are helping to provide an educational resource that will encourage other cross dressers wives to open up and share their emotional stories.
We are thrilled to announce that our deadline for the book, unforeseen circumstances notwithstanding, to our online publisher is October 1, 2010. If we are still awaiting your signed contract or author questions from the editor, please provide this information at your very earliest convenience.
We will keep everyone updated on this much-anticipated collection of stories about our lives as cross dressers wives.
With blessings and gratitude,
The Founder
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE
" I know in each moment I am free to decide." (Your Sacred Self, by Dr. Wayne Dryer, Page 4).
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives August Newsletter 2010
Topic for the month: Female Cross Dressers
So many people associate cross-dressing solely with men. It is important to acknowledge that many scientists uphold transvestites can be men or women. However, it is much more noticeable to see a man dressed up in woman’s clothing and realize he is either a transvestite, transgender or transsexual, but it is not as noticeable for a woman.
Many women wear lots of men’s clothing styles; such as masculine jeans, bulky sweatshirts, flannel shirts, work boots, and even business suits. The difference is, some societies do not place the same stigma on women for wearing men’s clothes, in or out of the bedroom.
It is interesting to note, The DSM-III-R (the bible for psychologists and psychiatrists) in the past have not included women as transvestites. Some social scientists argue that women who wear men’s clothing cannot be considered transvestites because they do not have sexual or erotic feelings while dressing in men’s clothes. However, other scientists will argue that there are women cross dressers and that some of them do claim to find cross-dressing sexually pleasurable. Some women cross dressers have claimed that simply dressing in a man’s suit results in immediate sexual gratification (Cross Dressings, Sex, And Gender by Vern L. and Bonnie Bullough pgs. 302-303).
This is another demonstrative case in point where social scientists are not all in agreement with the multifaceted issues of cross-dressing. Is it any wonder why so many cross dressers wives are confused!?
Blessings,
The Founder
______________________________________________
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
______________________________________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
______________________________________________
Book Update
Our book, about our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. We have two new foreign stories. Please know anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
______________________________________________
Inspirational Quote
“All the answers to all the questions you are ever going to ask are right here within you. Every time you say, ‘I don’t know,’ you shut the door to your own wisdom.”
(Taken from Louise Hay’s, Heart Thoughts: A Treasury of Inner Wisdom, page 78.)
So many people associate cross-dressing solely with men. It is important to acknowledge that many scientists uphold transvestites can be men or women. However, it is much more noticeable to see a man dressed up in woman’s clothing and realize he is either a transvestite, transgender or transsexual, but it is not as noticeable for a woman.
Many women wear lots of men’s clothing styles; such as masculine jeans, bulky sweatshirts, flannel shirts, work boots, and even business suits. The difference is, some societies do not place the same stigma on women for wearing men’s clothes, in or out of the bedroom.
It is interesting to note, The DSM-III-R (the bible for psychologists and psychiatrists) in the past have not included women as transvestites. Some social scientists argue that women who wear men’s clothing cannot be considered transvestites because they do not have sexual or erotic feelings while dressing in men’s clothes. However, other scientists will argue that there are women cross dressers and that some of them do claim to find cross-dressing sexually pleasurable. Some women cross dressers have claimed that simply dressing in a man’s suit results in immediate sexual gratification (Cross Dressings, Sex, And Gender by Vern L. and Bonnie Bullough pgs. 302-303).
This is another demonstrative case in point where social scientists are not all in agreement with the multifaceted issues of cross-dressing. Is it any wonder why so many cross dressers wives are confused!?
Blessings,
The Founder
______________________________________________
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
______________________________________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
______________________________________________
Book Update
Our book, about our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. We have two new foreign stories. Please know anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
______________________________________________
Inspirational Quote
“All the answers to all the questions you are ever going to ask are right here within you. Every time you say, ‘I don’t know,’ you shut the door to your own wisdom.”
(Taken from Louise Hay’s, Heart Thoughts: A Treasury of Inner Wisdom, page 78.)
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives July Newsletter 2010
Topic of the Month: His Lingerie
As many of you have stated on the forum and in our survey, it is highly common for many cross dressers to wear silky feminine clothes and or lingerie.
In the book, 7 Secrets, by Lacy Leigh, she addresses the issue of the bedroom trap (pg.118). In essence the aforementioned acknowledges that if your encounters with your cross dressing husband is virtually only in the bedroom and he is wearing lingerie, it is very common for the wife/partner to assume cross dressing is all about sex. However, it is much more complicated than that.
According to many hundreds of our forum posts and to our surveys, some cross dressers only ‘dress up’ the bedroom. In fact, our uncontrolled and random sample survey indicates the following:
15% of cross dressing husbands only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom.
10% do not dress in lingerie according to their wives/partners.
25% of cross dressers wives chose not to answer this question.
50% answered that sometimes their husbands dress in lingerie in the bedroom.
Many cross dressers claim they just love the feel of silk on them. However, so many of our stories indicate that even when we purchase silk men’s underwear for them, they choose not to wear it. Logic would dictate that it is not SILK that drives them to wear silky lingerie.
Social scientists are still debating why this occurs. All we know for sure is that some cross dressers only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom. However, that is not to say they are not cross dressing in other pieces of woman’s clothing when we are not present. Perhaps they are wearing lingerie under their everyday clothes.
Lacy Leigh urges cross dressers to disclose this information early on in the relationship. She also suggests to cross dressers not to scare their wives (who do not know yet, or just found out) by cross dressing in front of them. Leigh states, You’ll only reinforce her worst fears if you begin too soon (pg117). For many of us, our worst fears have materialized in the form of silk…
Blessings,
The Founder
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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
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Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
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Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
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Inspiration Quote
It’s a good thing we have the denial system, because it allows us to cover our wounds and still function. But once we no longer have any wounds or any poisons, we don’t need to lie anymore.” (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz).
As many of you have stated on the forum and in our survey, it is highly common for many cross dressers to wear silky feminine clothes and or lingerie.
In the book, 7 Secrets, by Lacy Leigh, she addresses the issue of the bedroom trap (pg.118). In essence the aforementioned acknowledges that if your encounters with your cross dressing husband is virtually only in the bedroom and he is wearing lingerie, it is very common for the wife/partner to assume cross dressing is all about sex. However, it is much more complicated than that.
According to many hundreds of our forum posts and to our surveys, some cross dressers only ‘dress up’ the bedroom. In fact, our uncontrolled and random sample survey indicates the following:
15% of cross dressing husbands only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom.
10% do not dress in lingerie according to their wives/partners.
25% of cross dressers wives chose not to answer this question.
50% answered that sometimes their husbands dress in lingerie in the bedroom.
Many cross dressers claim they just love the feel of silk on them. However, so many of our stories indicate that even when we purchase silk men’s underwear for them, they choose not to wear it. Logic would dictate that it is not SILK that drives them to wear silky lingerie.
Social scientists are still debating why this occurs. All we know for sure is that some cross dressers only dress in lingerie while in the bedroom. However, that is not to say they are not cross dressing in other pieces of woman’s clothing when we are not present. Perhaps they are wearing lingerie under their everyday clothes.
Lacy Leigh urges cross dressers to disclose this information early on in the relationship. She also suggests to cross dressers not to scare their wives (who do not know yet, or just found out) by cross dressing in front of them. Leigh states, You’ll only reinforce her worst fears if you begin too soon (pg117). For many of us, our worst fears have materialized in the form of silk…
Blessings,
The Founder
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FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
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Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------
Inspiration Quote
It’s a good thing we have the denial system, because it allows us to cover our wounds and still function. But once we no longer have any wounds or any poisons, we don’t need to lie anymore.” (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz).
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives June Newsletter 2010
Topic of the Month: Our Health
Welcome to all participants of our Forum and website. Many have expressed problems and concerns regarding their general well-being, as well as their physical and emotional health.
We have examined the survey results of an informal randomly selected sample of fifty cross dresser wives. Here are the results:
1) 36% indicated they are experiencing suicidal thoughts.
2) 47% are currently taking anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and/ or sleeping medication.
3) 73% have never been on these types of medication prior to being exposed to their cross dressing partners.
4) 57% are presently undergoing psychotherapy due to these circumstances. (Many other women have indicated that they would seek therapy if it were affordable to them.)
It is vital to understand that this was not a controlled, scientific study. However, it is relevant to note that there appears to be a direct correlation between cross dressers wives and these maladies. Find comfort in knowing you are not alone if you are encountering these aforementioned conditions.
On a less formal note, in my many years of study on this topic, I have found some of these other symptoms to be typical: alcoholism, drug addiction, erratic behavior, lack of energy, depression, anxiety, and many other negative symptoms.
Here are some helpful tips that may benefit your health and well-being:
1) Build a support team (friends, close family members, religious or spiritual leader.)
2) Seek counseling.
3) Exercise increases your endorphins (yoga, Pilates, walking, bike riding, and swimming, etc.)
4) Meditation.
5) Eat healthy foods and drink plenty of water.
6) Journal or read a good uplifting book.
7) Try to get twenty minutes of sunshine daily (increases endorphins, vitamin D, and combats insomnia.)
8) Open your shades and try to get outside everyday (maintain good grooming and personal hygiene.)
9) Pray if so inclined.
10) Befriend and communicate with another cross dressers wife from this Forum.
Remember to LOVE yourself!
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
Inspirational Quote
“Write down any positive feedback you’ve ever gotten, from other people or from circumstances. Put copies of this feedback list everywhere, and read it often” (Finding Your Own North Star authored by Martha Beck).
Welcome to all participants of our Forum and website. Many have expressed problems and concerns regarding their general well-being, as well as their physical and emotional health.
We have examined the survey results of an informal randomly selected sample of fifty cross dresser wives. Here are the results:
1) 36% indicated they are experiencing suicidal thoughts.
2) 47% are currently taking anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and/ or sleeping medication.
3) 73% have never been on these types of medication prior to being exposed to their cross dressing partners.
4) 57% are presently undergoing psychotherapy due to these circumstances. (Many other women have indicated that they would seek therapy if it were affordable to them.)
It is vital to understand that this was not a controlled, scientific study. However, it is relevant to note that there appears to be a direct correlation between cross dressers wives and these maladies. Find comfort in knowing you are not alone if you are encountering these aforementioned conditions.
On a less formal note, in my many years of study on this topic, I have found some of these other symptoms to be typical: alcoholism, drug addiction, erratic behavior, lack of energy, depression, anxiety, and many other negative symptoms.
Here are some helpful tips that may benefit your health and well-being:
1) Build a support team (friends, close family members, religious or spiritual leader.)
2) Seek counseling.
3) Exercise increases your endorphins (yoga, Pilates, walking, bike riding, and swimming, etc.)
4) Meditation.
5) Eat healthy foods and drink plenty of water.
6) Journal or read a good uplifting book.
7) Try to get twenty minutes of sunshine daily (increases endorphins, vitamin D, and combats insomnia.)
8) Open your shades and try to get outside everyday (maintain good grooming and personal hygiene.)
9) Pray if so inclined.
10) Befriend and communicate with another cross dressers wife from this Forum.
Remember to LOVE yourself!
FREE PHONE CONSULTATION
We are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. In April we began our Consultation Services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over one thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
Inspirational Quote
“Write down any positive feedback you’ve ever gotten, from other people or from circumstances. Put copies of this feedback list everywhere, and read it often” (Finding Your Own North Star authored by Martha Beck).
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives May Newsletter 2010
Topic Of The Month: Take advantage of our May only Free 15 minute phone consultation.
For the month of May we are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. Last month we began our consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, a M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over a thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
____________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
____________________
Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
Inspirational Quote
“I know I am strengthened as I seek to make truth my personal reality” (Your Sacred Self by Wayne Dyer, page 222).
For the month of May we are offering a free 15-minute phone consultation. Last month we began our consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, a M.A. in Social Sciences and has worked with over a thousand cross dressers wives. She is not a licensed therapist, however, she is a former cross dressers wife. Please book your free 15-minute phone consultation by contacting us at cdwives@gmail.com. Our basic fee is $50 an hour.
____________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand and help those in need. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who seek assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or volunteer your services to help us assist these women who are in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous consequences. It is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival.
____________________
Book Update
Our book, Our Lives As Cross Dressers Wives, is currently being edited. Anyone interested in submitting her story may contact us at cdwives@gmail.com. All of our stories are anonymous and all participants will receive compensation for their five to twenty-five page story. Please note; we are not seeking writers per say, just your story to enlighten others about the experiences of some cross dressers wives.
Inspirational Quote
“I know I am strengthened as I seek to make truth my personal reality” (Your Sacred Self by Wayne Dyer, page 222).
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Cross Dressers Wives April Newsletter 2010
Topic Of The Month: Spring is time for renewal.
Many of us are struggling with ways to renew ourselves. Now is the perfect time!
What do we have in our power in order to change our lives? We hold the key by accepting the fact that being married to a cross dresser is no easy task. For many of us however, it is a multi-task learning process. The journey of acceptance begins by coming to terms with the fact that we do not possess the power to change our cross dressing spouses/partners. We only have the power to change ourselves, no easy task. This precious knowledge can lead to a sense of peace and serenity. Take this power, refocus your energies each day and change your life one step at a time.
Spring is a great time to focus on self-renewal. A part of our new beginning in the renewal process comes from accepting what has been lost in many of our relationships and to discover ways to bring about new life skills for self-renewal. This is our time to blossom but we need to make sure we have sufficient water, food, sun and TLC to do so! The key is to be good and kind to ourselves and the rest will begin to fall into place.
Blessings,
The Founder
________________________________________________________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times funds are short, limiting our ability to expand. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who are in need of assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or to volunteer your services in order to help us assist these women who are in dire need of; support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous struggles, pain, confusion and sometimes severe consequences. For most of us, it is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival. ________________________________________________________________
New Consultation Link
We are elated to announce a new service and outreach program for those wives who are in need of one-on-one telephone support. The Founder is not a licensed therapist, though holds a degree in Women’s Studies and has earned a M.A. in Social Sciences. Additionally, she has worked with literally thousands of cross dressers wives for years. This service is now available for $50 an hour by appointment only. Please contact The Founder at cdwives@gmail.com for an appointment or more information.
________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote
“ When you always do your best, you take action”. ( The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz).
________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Books
Transitions by William Bridges
Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
Many of us are struggling with ways to renew ourselves. Now is the perfect time!
What do we have in our power in order to change our lives? We hold the key by accepting the fact that being married to a cross dresser is no easy task. For many of us however, it is a multi-task learning process. The journey of acceptance begins by coming to terms with the fact that we do not possess the power to change our cross dressing spouses/partners. We only have the power to change ourselves, no easy task. This precious knowledge can lead to a sense of peace and serenity. Take this power, refocus your energies each day and change your life one step at a time.
Spring is a great time to focus on self-renewal. A part of our new beginning in the renewal process comes from accepting what has been lost in many of our relationships and to discover ways to bring about new life skills for self-renewal. This is our time to blossom but we need to make sure we have sufficient water, food, sun and TLC to do so! The key is to be good and kind to ourselves and the rest will begin to fall into place.
Blessings,
The Founder
________________________________________________________________
Donations and Volunteers
We are a charitable, nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible. We rely solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. During these difficult financial times funds are short, limiting our ability to expand. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop outreach programs for worldwide cross dressers wives who are in need of assistance and support. Please visit our links to make a contribution or to volunteer your services in order to help us assist these women who are in dire need of; support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion and guidance. Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial and guilt. This has not come without enormous struggles, pain, confusion and sometimes severe consequences. For most of us, it is comforting to know that we are not alone! There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. Only other cross dressers wives have ever walked in our, "high heels" (except for many of our cross dressing husbands). A sense of humor may often be essential for our survival. ________________________________________________________________
New Consultation Link
We are elated to announce a new service and outreach program for those wives who are in need of one-on-one telephone support. The Founder is not a licensed therapist, though holds a degree in Women’s Studies and has earned a M.A. in Social Sciences. Additionally, she has worked with literally thousands of cross dressers wives for years. This service is now available for $50 an hour by appointment only. Please contact The Founder at cdwives@gmail.com for an appointment or more information.
________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote
“ When you always do your best, you take action”. ( The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz).
________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Books
Transitions by William Bridges
Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
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