THE CROSS DRESSERS WIVES OCTOBER NEWSLETTER 2013

TOPIC: GET OUT TH FIRST TIME

Dee’s Corner

There are many forms of abuse- emotional, psychological and physical abuse. All are harmful, destructive and some are illegal. It is important to know the difference.

 

When his cross dressing becomes more than just ‘dressing up’ and your CD partner is now becoming violent-GET OUT!  Do not wait for anything else to happen. DOMESTIC VILONCE IS ILLEGAL. Call the police-do not hesitates if you are ever being threatened-take those threats seriously. If he hits you once-that should be the LAST time. There is NO TOLERANCE for physical violence-against you and some even hurt your children and even beloved pets to use that as a threat against you.

 

If your CD partner is threatening you-you children or your animals- you need to immediately take action: 911. Get protective orders- some wives have to get them for themselves and their animals!! It is bad enough with what too many CDW/partners put up with.  This is where it has to end.

 

Must draw the line in the sand…physical violence can only happen one time-and then- he is out! Let him get the help he needs behind bars. Under NO circumstances should any of you be living in this situation and I know too many of you are. Please, I beg you to love yourselves enough to know-staying with an abuser is only going to get progressively worse. Your life, health and well-being should never be endangered because of the man that married -who promised to protect you and love you is now a violent offender and you are his target.

 

For those that this applies to –get protective orders- seeks out help right away. This is 100% unacceptable and don’t stay because of your kids-get them out of this situation. Ask for help! Contact a lawyer-tell your friends. Let everyone know he is a danger to you. Love yourself to know- you and your children and pets deserve a better life, one without any form of abuse.  You are all worthy of peace, love and happiness- not crazy making.

 

It is heart wrenching to think that some CDH are beating their wives…and they are protecting the abuser- instead of themselves. We know you are out there-it is OK to tell, once you tell-things can and will change.

 

Our hearts and prayers are going out to all the CDW who are also experiencing domestic violence. Please contact local police, women’s shelters, contact Tim our family CD advisor, the infamous Dorothy Hayden or me.

 

Blessings,

Dee A Levy

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Tim’s corner…

Ladies I am sorry I have been absent from the newsletter the last few months. I have been busy with so many of wives like you.

The one thing I noticed and is a recurring theme is that no matter what -if you stay or leave that this still haunts so many. I work very hard to help these women to find a place that they are not so consumed with grief and Hurt. I can say that I have had success with many and not with my words with there's. As for the husbands I don't believe like many on the site that these men a doomed to a life of cross dressing. I have several that have stopped!!!! Now most will say how do I know and I don't but I have seen a change in attitude and so have their wives. I tell them they can fool everyone but themselves.

 

They are the ones that have to look in the mirror everyday and see themselves. The want to stop is the key if you love your wife and kids and want to be free they can, but most of all they need to love themselves. Cross dressing will take it's toll on them a slow processes but it will eat them up. I have had great success with digging into the past and helping them see clearly why they think and do what they do. I look forward to continuing to help wives and husbands to have a better and happier future. If you want to talk email me at timcdfamilyadvisor@yahoo.com

 

Thank you for your support

Tim

 

 

 

 

 

Dorothy Hayden corner

Dorothy is on vacation…more next month!

 

 

 

Questionnaire II UPDATE 

 

A psychological scientific journal article is going to disclose the results of our survey, conducted by Dr. Richard Docter and Dee A Levy, MA.

 

Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, 

making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks 

to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey data and the results will be made available on this web site. 

 

Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping 

with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these on-going research projects. 

 

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HOTLINE   Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 

with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 

and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not 

a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 

 

Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.

 

 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 30 minutes are free.  

 

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 HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 

 

“I have been in counseling for years and things only got worse. After talking to Dee, I realized she could help me because she understood the problem and my challenges. Thank you Dee.”

 

“When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ understood how much my 

husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.”

 

 “You are the only person I trust” “My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone

 

 I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  

 

"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent 

in therapy." 

 

 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."  

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 DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 

All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 

Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

 

Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived incomplete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  

 

There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’

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Inspirational Quote of the Month…

 

“Don’t look outside yourself for a leader.”

 

Hopi Elders after Septemeber 11, 2001 terror attacks

 

From Barbara Feldon’s book, Living Alone and Loving It (pg. 110).

Cross Dressers Wives September Newsletter 2013

Topic for the Month: Everything Happens For A Reason. Everything.

 

Dee’s Corner…

 

Welcome! Hope you are all taking good care of yourselves. Find time everyday to love you. Take a long bath, read a great book, do yoga, take a walk, do something you enjoy. It is vital for you.

 

On another note, things are moving very quickly-and please know I have reason to believe we have a GREAT chance of having a show about our real lives on air in a matter of months! This is our chance to open up and tell the truth about our lives (good, bad and everything in between). Anyone who is interested-please get hold of me a.s.a.p. at cdwives@gmail.com.

 

Ladies, for years so many producers have approached us, TV companies, networks etc. to come out and tell our stories. I have stayed away from anyone who I thought might want to exploit us. Finally highly credible phenomenal award winning producers came into my life; we are working diligently to find other CDW wives/partners and CDH/partner to come out and share their stories-without showing their ‘true’ identity. So many women have said, “I want to tell my story.”

 

Ladies…everything happens for a reason. Did you choose to marry/live with a cross dresser? 70% of you did not get the choice. So many of us ask, Why Me? Because everything happens for a reason.

 

Maybe your reason was to become stronger. And perhaps by telling your story you can heal, as you help others by disclosing your secret and letting other cross dressers wives know they are no longer alone. You can use your life to make a positive difference all over the globe.

 

We are trailblazers…not victims!

Blessings,

Dee

 

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Tim’s Corner…

 

He has been working so many hours with couples-so far all the couples (I think with one exception) he has worked with are all still together, setting boundaries, and working on saving their relationships. Thank you so much for being there for us!

 

Tim sends his best wishes out to all! And we send our gratitude to Tim!

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Dorothy Hayden’s Corner…

 

Why CD's Are So Attracted to She/Male Pornography? 

 

•   The fantasy of being a beautiful woman is what drives all CD behavior. Dressing is one way of achieving that. Another is the fantasy (or actuality) of being penetrated like a woman is penetrated.

•   A she/male (the politically correct term is “T-girl”) brings together the disparate parts of the CD's personality, the CD being a person with a personality divided.

•   The CD has a need to disavow what's known to be true; that there are differences in males and females. Connection to an unreal vision fortifies that disavowal.

•   The CD identifies clothing as a primary turn-on and seeks the penis as a way to concretize his desire to experience what women experience. He does not identify with the person of the T-girl as a turn-on, and therefore is not a homosexual. A gay man doesn't want a man who dresses like a woman; he wants a total man.

•   The T-girl's penis is a symbol of the father's masculinity, which may have been denied to the CD.

•   The sexual excitement of “forbidden fruit” transforms unwanted feelings.

•   To the CD, the T-girl is a god-like being – expansive, alive, excited and exciting, beautiful, desirable, spellbinding, powerful, compelling and unforgettable. To be desired by such an idealized illusion relieves feelings of being depleted and enfeebled in his masculine identity.

 

 

Dorothy Hayden, LCSW

New York Center for Sex Addiction Therapy

www.sextreatment.com

 

Everyone who has contacted Dorothy has raved about her and her outstanding knowledge of cross dressers& sex addiction. We are blessed to have her share her wisdom with us. Remember-she offers a 30-minute free consultation!!! Thank You

Dorothy!

 

 

Questionnaire II UPDATE 

 

Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, 

making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks 

to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey data and the results will be made available on this web site. 

 

Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping 

with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these on-going research projects. 

 

___________________________________________________

 

HOTLINE   Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 

with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 

and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not 

a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 

 

Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.

 

 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 30 minutes are free.  

 

___________________________________________________

 

 HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 

 

“I have been in counseling for years and things only got worse. After talking to Dee, I realized she could help me because she understood the problem and my challenges. Thank you Dee.”

 

“When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ understood how much my 

husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.”

 

 “You are the only person I trust” “My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone

 

 I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  

 

"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent 

in therapy." 

 

 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."  

___________________________________________________

 

 DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 

All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 

Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

 

Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived incomplete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  

 

There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’

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Inspirational Quote of the Month…

 

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

 

Maya Angelou

Cross Dressers Wives August Newsletter 2013

Topic For The Month: TV and I Do Not Mean TranVestites!

Dee’s Corner…

Ladies we have been approached again by well known, highly reputable, award- winning TV Producers to come forward and tell our stories.  They are looking for trailblazers, 

Cross Dresssing husbands and their wives to reveal their unique experiences. 

We are not being pursued by a “Jerry Springer show’- I have ignored ALL requests 

such as that.

Instead it is a much more of a dignified setting, with counselors, etc. Idealistically, we 

are looking for couples in the LA area to do a sizzling reel-that will only be seen by TV executives. However, please notify us if you are interested and live outside LA. It will 

never be shown to the public. Please let me know if you are interested. Yes, we are 

also looking for Cross Dressers Wives (CDW) – ex’s too- to share their stories. 

We are here to share your voices…

Blessings and Gratitude,

Dee A Levy

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Tim’s corner…our CD family advisor. He is so busy helping other couples. As so

 many of you know, he has had some great success helping those in dire need. 

Many CDH have claimed it was so easy for them to talk to Tim. Of course Tim is 

not going to ‘cure’ your husband’s CD but he manages to get a lot of them to 

understand what you are going through, which ultimately helps you too.  We think 

he should write a book for cross dressers- just about his experiences working in 

this extraordinary field. Tim-you can and should do it!!!

timcdfamilyadvisor@yahoo

Dorothy Hayden’s Corner

Dismayed that your CD husband started dressing again after months or 

years of abstinence?

It's understandable that what you thought was an issue he had left behind him has 

re-appeared.  You feel discouraged, dismayed and angry.

The fact is, therapists, psychoanalysts and medical doctors have tried a great number 

of treatments for CD and, as far as I know, there has not been one documented case 

of a man being “cured” of it for the rest of his life.  Some clinicians have claimed 

cure but have not followed up to see if the “cure” remained.

Since cross-dressing is no longer seen as a disease or a psychopathology, there 

can be no “cure”.  With therapy a CD can learn to modulate his impulses to some 

degree, but the desire always remains.  When he is going through stress or 

emotional upheaval, there's a good chance that he's return to what makes 

him feel safe and secure – and that's dressing.

Trying to “cure” cross-dressing is like trying to cure homosexuality.  Perhaps some combination of pre-natal “androgens”, unbalanced in the mother's womb, together

 with a maternal figure that was either too enmeshed or too distant explains the phenomenon.  Either way, therapists now see CD as a life-long condition.

If a person is an alcoholic, he/she can either be active or sober, but an alcoholic 

he remains.  Also like addiction, it is prone to relapse.

If your husband has returned to dressing after a period of staying “dry”, then 

something is probably going on with him emotionally and a wise way to 

proceed is to try to have understanding and empathy for what that is.

Dorothy Hayden, LCSW

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Questionnaire II UPDATE 

Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, 

making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks 

to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be 

sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey 

data and the results will be made available on this web site. 

Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of 

Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional 

research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping 

with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these 

on-going research projects. 

______________________________________________________

HOTLINE   Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 

with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 

and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not 

a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 

Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking

advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book 

your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.

 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 15 minutes are free.  

______________________________________________________

HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS “When I read the book with my cross dressing 

husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ 

I felt so much better after talking to someone who really understood how much my 

husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.” “You are the only person I trust” 

“My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  "You have no idea. 

You’ve saved my life.”  "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone

 I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  "The advice I received 

from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  

"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent 

in therapy."  "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert 

on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."  

______________________________________________________

 DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 

All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and

 grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are 

short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 

Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide 

programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

Please visit our links to purchase our book via paypal, make a financial contribution, 

or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in

 complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous 

consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  

There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique 

needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’

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Inspirational Quote of the Month…

"Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, the true kingdom for each one of us; 

and true progress is to know more, and be more, and to do more."

Sir John Lubbock

Cross Dressers Wives July Newsletter 2013

Topic: Our New Licensed Therapist

 Dee’s A Levy, MA Corner….

We at Cross Dressers Wives non profit are delighted to announce our new monthly addition to our team and newsletter. May I introduce…Dorothy Hayden, LCSW, sex addiction therapist NYCWith over 40 published articles as well as an e-book ("Total Sex Addiction Recovery -- A Guide to Therapy"), Dorothy Hayden, LCSW is considered to be a "thought leader" in the field of sex addiction. She practices psychotherapy in her Manhattan, NY location but services client world-wide through SKYPE. Her full bio and list of articles can be found at http://www.sextreatment.com. 

Currently, Hayden’s work focuses on cross dressers and consequently many of their wives/partners. She has been on 20/20, The Today Show to name a few. We are delighted to welcome Ms. Dorothy Hayden to our Forum as our monthly therapist!

Blessings & Gratitude,
Dee A Levy, MA
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Dorothy Hayden’s corner…        Hello...My name is Dorothy Hayden, LCSW and I'm delighted to have been invited by Dee to "join the team." With a clinical degree from New York University, I undertook six years of psychoanalytic training.  When I started my private practice 15 years ago, I specialized in treating sex/porn addiction as well as those who are "cross-wired" sexually.  When I started treating cross-dressers and their partners, I became intensely curious about the phenomenon from a psychological point of view.  I would pour over the journals in the NYU library for days at a time, reading everything I could about "transvestism". I have extensive experience treating the significant others of sex/porn addicts.  The similarities between them and cdw's are remarkable.  The shock of discovery, the excruciating hurt, the senseless sense of betrayal, the secret-keeping and isolation, the self-blame, the self-doubt about their "womanhood"; the frustration at his deceit and his endless pre-occupation; the feeling of hopelessness; the sorrow over the loss of the person they thought they knew and loved. 

I'm in the process of starting a blog for CDers and their partners.  As soon as I have the URL, I'll let you know.  I'll be participating in forums and writing for your newsletter. In the meantime, please take the time to read a comprehensive article I wrote about the partners of sex addicts.  I suspect it may apply to you as well. http://sextreatment.com/help-for-the-partners-of-sex-addicts.

 I'm happy to be on board and look forward to getting to know many of you over the years. Warmest,Dorothy Hayden, LCSWhaydenlcsw@gmail.comNew York Center for Sex Addiction Therapywww.sextreatment.comhttp://sextreatment.com/help-for-the-partners-of-sex-addicts

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Tim’s Corner… He is so busy but wanted me to send his best to all!

Tim, thank you for saving one of our beloved cross dressers wife life! We are so blessed to have you as a CD Family Advisor. You are our hero, always going above and beyond to support us.

You have your particular way that works wonders for so many CDH and CDW and we are so glad to have you with us. We could not do this without you!!!

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Recommended Book of The Month: DIFFERENT BY LESLIE HAMMOND
Please find a snippet from Leslie Hammond’s book…

“I believe is where the main issue and problem area arises in particular for a loved one, wife or partner who struggles to understand this desire of their partner. Even with all of the trust in the world, it brings about the underlying question of ‘why does he want to dress in ladies clothes?’ The fact that the man they married or live with was in every sense of the word ‘their man’, now suddenly has the liking for wearing ladies clothes. It automatically connects with sexual desires and, leads to the thought ‘what is he thinking about and isn’t our sex life good enough?’

Obviously even for the most open and trusting relationship, it would bring about questions that need answers! The whole subject of a successful marriage or partnership is based on love and trust. Both go hand in hand and, one will never work without the other. To bring such a question into this relationship automatically brings about some suspicion, which is something that should never be permitted to happen. Again, it’s a difficult subject to even discuss as it’s somehow tainted with the sexual and weirdo thing [so to speak] and for this the majority of people in this world they have no desire to want to discuss or, understand it. It’s seemed wrong in many people’s minds and in many cases, it is wrong. That being said we are all different.”  (Pages 14-15). Different is available on amazon.com, kindle etc. I highly recommend to for those wives that want to understand their husbands cross dressing. It is a great read!

Dee

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Questionnaire II UPDATE Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey data and the results will be made available on this web site. 

Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these on-going research projects. 

_______________________________________________________________

HOTLINE   Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 

Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 15 minutes are free.  

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HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS “When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ I felt so much better after talking to someone who really understood how much my husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.” “You are the only person I trust” “My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  "The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."  "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."  

_______________________________________________________________

 DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

Please visit our links to purchase our book, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.

Inspirational Quote of the Month…  “…create a vision board (see it, believe it and achieve it).” (Oprah: A Biography by Kitty Kelley pg. 368)        

Cross Dressers Wives June’s Newsletter 2013

Topic For The Month: New additions for our Newsletter


Dee’s Corner: Happy Summer! We have some growing changes taking place on the website and newsletter. Next month we will have a new addition…may I introduce…


Dorothy Hayden, LCSW
New York Center for Sex Addiction Therapy
www.sextreatment.com 


For 15 years, Hayden has been working with CD (not trannsgenders) and sex addiction, as a therapist in New York. She is going to share her views with us starting in July! 
Welcome Dorothy Hayden!! Additionally, please know we are seeking other wives opinions every month for our new section: A CDW’s Opinion! Please e-mail your suggestions to cdwives@gmail.com. 
We want to hear from you-you are all the experts!!!
 With Blessings and Gratitude,Dee A Levy (PS - Also please note that this does not imply that the non profit: Cross Dressers Wives is in agreement with Hayden’s and other CDW opinions).

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A CDW’s Opinion… I do think it important, that CDW's hear of behind-the-scenes protective actions, which are being planned and advocated.  For every 1 post advocating this, I can assure you there are 10,000 silent men incorporating it into their strategy. Women, by socialization, are vulnerable to the competitive strategies, which most men employ in their everyday decision-making.  Strategies, which are developed with the sole and constant intent for men to win, to "get their way".  Men practice this in a number of harmless ways - softball leagues, drinking games, football dream teams, fast cars, large SUVs, pounds and repetitions in the weight room.  It never ends.  That relentless practice spills over into their interpersonal relationships, without conscious thought, but with all the fire, conviction and desperation of passionate ownership.  My Wife, My Marriage, My Life - MY WAY! Women don't build defenses to limit losses.  Women don't craft highly nuanced, multi-layered strategic actions designed to beat down opponents.  Women give, and they give and give and give and give, until they are all give out.  Women don't take care of themselves, and by association, those in their care.   I hope to see the participants on the CDW Forum develop better defenses and, when it proves necessary, more successful offenses. Best,Alice Please note our address changed:CDW12400 Ventura Blvd  #264Studio City, CA91604 CDW no longer handles the sales of our book, The Cross Dressers Wife *Our Secret Lives. Please order by amazon.com or Barnes & noble etc. and you can pay by PayPal. Thank you!

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Questionnaire II UPDATE Over the past year nearly 300 wives of cross dressers have completed this survey, making it the largest group ever to participate in a wives study of this kind. Thanks to each of you! If you have not responded to Questionnaire II please do so, and be sure to respond to all of the questions. We are starting to analyze the survey data and the results will be made available on this web site. Additionally, a more formal report will be submitted to one of the scientific journals concerned with transgender studies, such as the International Journal of Transgenderism or the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main focus of additional research will involve asking wives in more detail about how they are coping with cross dressing. Of course, we'll be inviting each of you to join us in these on-going research projects.

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HOTLINE   Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com. The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 15 minutes are free. 

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HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS “When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ I felt so much better after talking to someone who really understood how much my husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.” “You are the only person I trust” “My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  "You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  "I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  "The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  "The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy."  "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is." 

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DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER 
We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  Please visit our links to purchase our book, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.

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Inspirational Quote

Remember that being by oneself is not the same as being abandoned. 
The world is still there.

Barbara Feldon’s, Living Alone and Loving It (pg. 33).