Tuesday, March 11, 2014

CROSS DRESSERS WIVES MARCH’S NEWSLETTER

TOPIC: DIVORCE: THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL & BEING HAPPY
DEE’S CORNER….
Chances are high, you tried EVERYTHING to get him to stop cross dressing and despite your efforts- nothing worked. From the moment you discovered you married a cross dresser-unknowingly- you have NEVER wanted anything to do with your husband’s physical feminine side. However, he purged so many times-you pulled “HER STUFF” out of the garbage because you could not afford to have him/her replace everything. So, you decided there is no other way: Divorce.
Divorce – by most standards is a dreadful process-but add cross dressing and it can get very nasty.
But do you have to be nasty? Follow him? Out Him? Trash him? Stalk him?  Harass him? Go to his job? Tell his parents?
All of this aforementioned have been done to some cross dressers. Though I know the anger and rage -but this type of behaviors do not serve you.  However-if you are under attack by him- THAT IS A DIFFERENT STORY- but you still have to strive to thrive-without him.
If you are seeking revenge- The Best Revenge is …living well and being happy!
Warmly,
Dee A Levy, MA


Tim’s corner…
Hejust shared his weekly wisdom with me. It is amazing that we are reaching people ALL OVER THE GLOBE!!! This is an exciting for us because we know that we are reaching more CDW and CD everyday! Tim has a lot of experience working with cross dressers. 

Please feel free to contact him at Timcdfamilyadvisor@yahoo.com

We love you Tim!!!
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Questionnaire III is being constructed and we need your help again to complete more groundbreaking research on our needs as cross dressers wives. We want your input.
What do you want to learn more about and why?
Do you see a correlation to your current state of health as it relates to the being a cross dresser’s wife? Many wives have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Furthermore, others have shared that they get more migraines, stress related illnesses that break down some of their immune systems because of the level of stress 
So many of us go through, by living with a BIG secret.
Too frequently, there are many of us that had undergone some serious illnesses at young ages (like heart attack, strokes, etc.).  We are going to explore this serious issue 
Because we do experience a lot of STRESS.
Please let us know about your health concerns (if any).
Also-we are eager to learn what you want to know more about. 

You are the EXPERTS And the GROUNDBREAKERS! 

Thank you in advance for your much needed cooperation!
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GREAT NEWS: Questionnaire II UPDATE: It is completed! More news about the 
results in 2014!!! We have a surprise coming!
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HOTLINE  
Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 
With The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 
and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 
Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.
 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 30 minutes are free.  
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 HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 
“I have been in counseling for years and things only got worse. After talking to Dee, 
I realized she could help me because she understood the problem and my challenges. Thank you Dee.”
“When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful
 to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ understood how much my husbands 
CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.”
 “You are the only person I trust” 
“My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  
"You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  
"I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has 
shared this experience."  
"The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  
"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy." 
 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ 
wives - the Founder is."  
____________________________________________________________________

DONATIONS & VOLUNTEERS 
We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 
All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants 
to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting 
our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 
Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  
Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, 
or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in 
complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous 
consequences. 
Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  
There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique 
needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’
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Inspirational Quote…
“Certain springs are tapped only when we are alone… women need solitude in order to find again the true essence of themselves, that firm strand which will be the indispensible center of a whole web oh human relationships.”

By
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

February’s Cross Dressers Wives Newsletter 2014

Topic: Love & Valentines…

Dee’s Corner…
 
What’s love got to do with it? Many believe LOVE can conquer all. Others, like many cross dresser’s wives aren’t so sure.  Just because they love their husbands - that does not mean they are happy.  Should they stay- no matter what? - Even though they feel like they are walking on eggshells everyday? If they love each other and are happy - despite the extra challenges of being married to a cross dresser - then all is well. However is love enough for the rest of us?
 
What is love? The denotation of love is…1love noun \ˈləv\
:  a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person
:  attraction that includes sexual desire:  the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship
:  a person you love in a romantic way
 
 
The connotation of love is a mixture of wonderment, kindness, angelic, compassion
and the list is endless.
 
Love is many things. One thing is for sure and we ALL know this to be true - It should not hurt.

Of course, all marriages/partnerships etc. have challenges - but NOTHING like what most cross dresses wives experience.
 
May you love yourself enough to take good care of yourself. Too many of us, taking care of ourselves is finding love in our marriages/partners. And if you cannot find love in your marriage, many you find other ways of bringing love into your lives. It all boils down to a personal choice and Cupid too (maybe).
 
What’s Love got to do with it? EVERYTHING. Happy Valentine’s Day To All Of You!
 
Xoxo,
Dee A Levy

The Cross Dresser’s Wife * Our Secret Lives –(5 stories from our Forum available on Amazon.com).
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Tim’s Corner

Many of you know how fortunate we are to have an extraordinary advisor to CDW and CDH working with us. He has helped so many in so many different ways. 

Please feel free to e-mail him at: timcdfamilyadvisor@yahoo.com!
 
We Love and Appreciate you Tim!!!
____________________________________________________________________
 
Questionnaire III is being constructed and we need your help again to complete more groundbreaking research on our needs as cross dressers wives. We want your input.
 
What do you want to learn more about and why?
 
Do you see a correlation to your current state of health as it relates to the being a cross dresser’s wife? Many wives have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Furthermore, others have shared that they get more migraines, stress related illnesses that break down some of their immune systems because of the level of stress 
so many of us go through, by living with a BIG secret.
 
Too frequently, there are many of us that had undergone some serious illnesses at young ages (like heart attack, strokes, etc.).  We are going to explore this serious issue 
because we do experience a lot of STRESS.
 
Please let us know about your health concerns (if any).
 
Also-we are eager to learn what you want to know more about. You are the EXPERTS 
and the GROUNDBREAKERS! Thank you in advance for your much needed cooperation!
____________________________________________________________________
 
GREAT NEWS: Questionnaire II UPDATE: It is completed! More news about the 
results in 2014!!! We have a surprise coming!
____________________________________________________________________

HOTLINE  
 
Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 
With The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 
and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 
 
Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.
 
 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 30 minutes are free.  
 ___________________________________________________________________
 
 HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 
 
“I have been in counseling for years and things only got worse. After talking to Dee, 
I realized she could help me because she understood the problem and my challenges. Thank you Dee.”
 
“When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful
 to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ understood how much my husbands 
CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.”
 
 “You are the only person I trust” 
 
“My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  
 
"You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  
 
"I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has 
shared this experience."  
 
"The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  
 
"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy." 

 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ 
wives - the Founder is."  
____________________________________________________________________

DONATIONS & VOLUNTEERS 
 
We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 
 
All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants 
to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting 
our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 
 
Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  
 
 
Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, 
or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in 
complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous 
consequences. 

Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  
 
 
There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique 
needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’
 
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Inspirational Quote…

"One loyal friend is worth 10 thousand relatives."     Euripides
 
 
 
 

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

CROSS DRESSER’S WIVES JANUARY NEWLETTTER 2014

HAPPY NEW YEAR!   TOPIC: SELF CARE FIRST 
Dee’s Corner….
Happy, Healthy New Year to Everyone! A new year always brings new hope, a fresh start, yet it can also bring new challenges. As a CDW or Ex CD wives – this can cause us to undergo too much stress-, which we now know, can hurt us in a multitude of ways. What is the answer? Self Care.

We all know that you are always instructed to put the oxygen mask on yourself first on a plane- then on your children etc. This is so you will have the ability to take care of them-but not until you take care of yourself first. This is neither selfishness nor narcissism. There is a huge difference. If you cannot take good care of yourself- how can you take care of your family?

One of my favorite books that I often resort to when I am not feeling well is Louise Hay’s, You Can Heal Your Life A-Z. It derives from Eastern thinking and it makes so much sense. For example, if you have a bladder infection- Hay would claim it is due to being pissed off and holding in the anger. How do you resolve this? -With positive affirmations…
How do you take care of yourself? Make a list of all of the ways you take care of YOU. Are you paying enough attention to your body? Are you going to the doctors? Dentist? How are you caring for your body, mind, heart & soul? It could be as simple as, getting your hair done, taking a manicure, a pedicure, taking some special "time off' doing things one enjoys doing or, on a grander scale spending a day or two or more, 
for example, at a spa- with your best girl friend.

What do you need to pay more attention too? Listen to your body- it will tell you what you need, if you take the time and be still…the answers are within-if you take the time to listen…and take action.

Warmly Wishing You A GREAT 2014!
Dee


SELF HELP

 [The following information and resources contain tools, skills, techniques and constructive, transformative ways for living. Although they are not specifically written to address cross dressing, they can easily be applied to any person under stress and experiencing life-changes.]


AFFIRMATIONS

Positive Affirmations, Co-Dependents Anonymous (1988)

1. Just for today I will respect my own and others' boundaries.

2. Just for today I will be vulnerable with someone I trust.

3. Just for today I will take one compliment and hold it in my heart for more 
     than just a fleeting moment. I will let it nurture me.

4. Just for today I will act in a way that I would admire in someone else.

5. I am a child of God.

6. I am a precious person.

7. I am a worthwhile person.

8. I am beautiful inside and outside.

9. I love myself unconditionally.

10. I can allow myself ample leisure time without feeling guilty.

11. I deserve to be loved by myself and others.

12. I am loved because I deserve love.

13. I am a child of God and I deserve love, peace, prosperity and serenity.

14. I forgive myself for hurting myself and others.

15. I forgive myself for letting others hurt me.

16. I forgive myself for accepting sex when I wanted love.

17. I am willing to accept love.

18. I am not alone, I am one with God and the universe.

19. I am whole and good.

20. I am capable of changing.

21. The pain that I might feel by remembering can't be any worse than 
       the pain I feel by knowing and not remembering.

22. I am enough.

Some of you are very familiar with 12 step programs. Please do not misunderstand my intention. Despite the fact- these steps have NOTHING to do with AA-or Alanon- nonetheless-they can provide support when you really need to take things step by step. 

Write your own 12-step program…how you are choosing to live in 2014? I am going for the best year ever! Hope you are working towards that dream to become your reality.

Warmly,
Dee



SELF HELP AUDIO BOOKS

MAY THE ANGELS BE WITH YOU by Gary Quinn, 2003  by Gary Quinn, 2005

LIVING WITHOUT LIMITS (Audio CD) by Gary Quinn, 2008

THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS (Audio CD) by Gary Quinn, 2008

EAT PRAY LOVE by Elizabeth Gilbert, 2006
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SELF HELP BOOKS

ALL THE JOY YOU CAN STAND Debrena Jackson Gandy,
Crown Publishers, 2000.

THE FOUR AGREEMENTS Don Miguel Ruiz,
Amber-Allen Publishing, 1997.
To order visit: www.amberallen.com

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Donations and Volunteers

We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 
All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 

Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  

There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’
___________________________________________________

SHOUT OUT OF GRATITUDE…

Please know that our non-profit website has the most generous people behind it.  Thank you Tim, our CD family advisor- who has VOLUNTEERED hundreds of hours to this Forum.
Also- a shout out to our fabulous and most generous website designer & manager. Her name is Yolanda and we could not run this site without her skills. She is 100% behind us! Thank you Yolanda for all of your help for so many years now!

The Board of Directors have been working behind the scenes to enhance this nonprofit-thank you Kathleen and Rob!

Thank you Dorothy Hayden for providing us with another resource!

A Giant shout out to Dr. Docter, who worked with me for 27 months to construct a phenomenal study on cross dressers wives. It was an honor and a pleasure to work with Docter and we are going to do another study-with your help of course! Thank you Bambi, who posted all the time to get CDW to answer the questionnaire! Your responses made it happen. Much more to come about what happened to our study…

Shout Out to many cross dressers who courageously contacted me to find ways to tell their wives about their big life long secret. They taught me so much and I thank them for their trust in me.

THE BIGGEST SHOUT OUT GOES TO ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE SUPPORTED THIS NON PROFIT! If it were not for your courage to post we would be isolated, feeling like no one could ever imagine what our lives are like as cross dressers wives. We are not alone-thank you all for your contributions!

With love & gratitude,

Dee A Levy
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Inspirational Words…
When I asked my dear friend Karen Harris what are her New Years Resolutions? - She replied, “I do not make resolutions- I make decisions!”

Karen Harris
(Three time Emmy Award winning writer & President of the Writers Guild)

Monday, December 16, 2013

Cross Dressers Wives December 2013 - Happy Holidays!!

               Topic for the Month: Bridges Forum

Dee’s Corner…

Happy Holidays to everyone!!! May Santa be very good to all of you & yours-except may he lay off on the lingerie gifts! LOL!  

Ladies, your contributions impact the direction of the Forum. You express what you are experiencing, feelings, fears and valid concerns. Together we share tools and skills to deal with our cross dressing husbands or ex’s.  The Forum is our safe haven-it is solely for CDW-and yes at times some CDH come on here- some for good intentions-others to share-and some just try to aggravate us but judging us and our decisions. Nonetheless it is for CD wives only and will remain so- it is our safe haven.

Years ago, this non profit, Cross Dressers Wives, created an additional forum on this same website called Bridges. It was specifically supposed to be (key words supposed to) be a safe place where CDW and CDH could RESPECTFULLY share their opinions, stories, tools, skills, experiences. It was left up for a few months but was more or less it turned into a boxing ring, with no winners and lots of bruises.

Some CDH are more likely to share with us some information that could be useful as long as we treat them with respect too. This is not US AGAINST THEM. The goal is to respectively exchange information- let us learn from each other…and may they learn what cross dressing can do to a marriage…

Please let me know your thoughts on this Bridge Forum.

Enjoy your holidays!

Warmly,
Dee A Levy, MA
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Tim’s corner…

One CDW has asked us to print her thoughts on Tim, this non profit’s family cross dressing advisor…

” Tim thank you so much for help. Your wisdom and knowledge is beyond anything I could ever expected. You opened my eyes and my husbands I don't know how it will end but I know I am going to be ok thank you again.”

We love you Tim!

Dee, the CDW & the CDH you have helped!


Questionnaire II UPDATE: It is completed! More news about the results in 2014!!!
_____________________________________________________________________

HOTLINE  

Cross Dressers Wives NPO offers live telephone consultation services 
with The Founder. She holds a BA in Women Studies, an M.A. in Social Sciences, 
and has worked with thousands of cross dressers’ wives. The Founder is not 
a licensed therapist; she is a former cross dresser’s wife. 

Additionally, Dee A Levy also consults with many cross dressers- most seeking advice on how to disclose their secret to their clueless wives.  Please book your Hotline consultation by contacting cdwives@gmail.com.

 The basic fee is $50 an hour. The first 30 minutes are free.  
______________________________________________________________________

 HOTLINE TESTIMONIALS 

“I have been in counseling for years and things only got worse. After talking to Dee, I realized she could help me because she understood the problem and my challenges. Thank you Dee.”

“When I read the book with my cross dressing husband, we both cried! It was so helpful to first read the book- then consult with Dee” “ understood how much my husbands CD hurt me so much. I was relieved.”

 “You are the only person I trust” 

“My therapist does not understand me but your Forum does”  

"You have no idea. You’ve saved my life.”  

"I cannot tell you how blessed I felt to have someone I could talk to about this that has shared this experience."  

"The advice I received from the Founder about setting boundaries was a big help to my marriage."  

"The hour I spent speaking with you made me feel better than the year I spent in therapy." 

 "After my consultation, I realized my therapist was not the expert on cross dressers’ wives - the Founder is."  
______________________________________________________________________

DONATIONS; VOLUNTEER 

We are a charitable, non-for profit organization. 

All donations are tax deductible. Presently, we rely almost solely on donations and grants to support our much-needed services. In difficult financial times, funds are short, limiting our ability to expand our Hotline and international outreach resources. 

Every dollar we raise can assist Cross Dressers Wives NPO develop worldwide programs for cross dressers wives seeking assistance and support.  

Please visit our links to purchase our book via PayPal only, make a financial contribution, or volunteer your services to help us assist women in dire need of support, education, acceptance, understanding, compassion, and guidance.  Many of us have lived in complete silence, denial, and guilt. This does not come without enormous consequences. Sometimes, it is simply comforting to know that we are not alone.  

There are millions of us in the United States and throughout the world whose unique needs must be met. All contributions are greatly appreciated.  For privacy purposes, donations made by check may be made payable to ‘CDW’ Or ‘CROSS DRESSERS WIVES.’ Credit card donations made via PayPal appear as ‘CDW.’

______________________________________________________________________

Inspirational Quote…

“Intuition is not separate from life. To find it, you must fully enter life and learn to move as life moves.”The Intuitive Way: The Defining Guide to Increasing Your Awareness. Penny Pierce (2009) pg. 3)

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